Summer jobs and Thoughts about sexual harassment have, unfortunately, slipped into the marketplace for summer employment of young people, and, in particular, young women.
The steadily-declining WSJ recently published an article citing “mothers’ concerns about their daughters’ experiencing sexual harassment” when they take summer jobs. Well, as I write this post, I need to remind the reader that I, too, am a woman – and, as such, have certainly experienced my share of “unwanted advances” – which is all that “sexual harassment” is, in actuality. Would you like to know what I did about it? I shrugged it off and moved on to other ideas, involvements, enterprises that were of interest, making clear that those particular ideas put forth by unwanted admirers weren’t interesting. Was I damaged in any way by these interactions – no, not at all. Was it a life changing experience, as these mothers seem to believe (remember that these mothers are of the “helicopter generation”)? No, not at all – in fact, I have to dredge up those memories in order to even remember that they happened. And, by the way, they haven’t stopped. I stepped out of a high-level position in the university system a few years ago because of unwanted advances by my university president. Was that a life-changing experience – yes, but in a positive way: It was time to leave the university and that afforded me the opportunity to establish our company, Change Strategists, Inc. The rest, as they say, is history.
My point is this: You make of life what you wish to make of it. You can see it as harboring “constant threats” – as the mother featured in the WSJ piece seems to want her daughters to do – or you can learn to be ever-vigilant yet react with enthusiasm to the welcome opportunities that present themselves. Which would you choose?